Is It Time to Take a Personal Inventory?

Taking a personal inventory can assist you in determining the toxic people or behaviors in your life, and how to make positive changes that will create lasting change.
 
There are various methods to take a personal inventory which depends on your specific situation and personal goals. What messages were you given in your childhood? Were you forced to grow up too quickly because of dysfunction?  There are many facets of those dysfunctions such as one parent having an addiction. Were you expected to help care for siblings? What about having to take care of you parent because the other wasn’t around. Growing up with those types of expectations and challenges can wear on a child.
 
Did anyone ever tell you they were proud of you for no reason at all? Have you been made to believe you weren’t worthy of love or affection? That some how you just weren’t good enough or perfect enough. Did you feel shame or ridicule for not doing something someone thought was the right thing to do?  Sometimes did you feel as though you didn’t fit in? Have you ever felt drawn to toxic relationships because anything else feels uncomfortable or foreign?
 
These are only a few questions that can reveal the need to take a personal inventory of your life. Confronting these questions can identify toxic behaviors in your life. This is one of the first steps in the road to recovering from codependent life style.
 
Below I have added some self-inventory questions to consider. Take your time and be honest with yourself. Add these to your journal. This is your time to shine and love yourself again.
 
To do a personal self-inventory of your life, take time right now to ask yourself these simple but life exposing questions:

• Are you generally happy?
• Are you generally sad?
• Do you feel free or do you feel trapped?
• Are you content or are you stressed?
• Do you live with joy and love or do you live with sadness and fear?
• Are you holding on to pain from the past, or have you taken time to let go, heal and move forward?
• Are you in a healthy, harmonious relationship, or are you in a relationship that is full of turmoil, regret, and sadness?
• Is your life in balance, or are you living from one dramatic episode to another?
• Do you hold resentment or do you have forgiveness?
• Do you live in trust, or do you live in fear that somehow those around you will do you harm?
• How is your self-image?
• Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror?
• Do you feel healthy and fit, or do you live as a victim of illness?
• Do you have dreams and goals that you are striving for, or do you just live day to day, allowing whatever shows up to form your life?
• Do you appreciate all that you have around you, or do you take your positive circumstances for granted?
• Do you give back to those less fortunate, or do you hold on to your possessions tightly and believe in scarcity?
• Do you have self-love?

 
Learn to monitor and be aware of areas in your life that you have strengths and weaknesses and how it effects your mood. Observe what areas you may need to improve and other areas where
you excel.
 
Begin by taking small steps. Create a list of those areas in your life your great at. How do you view yourself? What are your positive attributes and negative areas you want to change?
 
Keep a journal of your accomplishments, chart your progress and the outcomes in each situation during your journey of yourself.
 
If you’re having challenges removing toxic people and behaviors from your life, then call me today. We will review your personal inventory to find out which areas you need the most support so you can start changing the image you see in the mirror and take steps toward self-love and acceptance. 

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