Create Goals, Create Change

Hello! I'm Gena Kidd. Developing a strong and confident self-image can be challenging. Especially when you may lose sight of who is most important. That person is You.  It’s time to learn how to place the focus back on yourself. I can provide you with the Transformational Life & Spiritual Coaching you need to Create Goals, to Create Change.
​Where Do I Begin, and You End?
Do you fear being alone?
Do you say yes when you mean no?
Do you have difficulty expressing yourself, thoughts and feelings?
How many times have you put yourself second to someone else needs?
Do you struggle with accepting responsibility for other’s feelings or action?
 If you said “yes” to any of these questions, then you could have codependent tendencies.
Codependency is a strong desire to please others, consistently putting the needs of others before yours.  Lost touch with who they are as an individual.
I have been where you are. I have seen those days of putting others before my needs. Not speaking up for myself. Allowing others to put my needs second.

My journey began when I realized I had a failed marriage and friendships that weren’t honest due to codependent behaviors. I grew up with a special needs
brother. Throughout my young years, my brother was the focus. My mother was involved in his school activities and charities to raise money for his
school. I always felt, especially as I grew into my teenage years, that I needed to be the perfect one. I always felt I fell short of this false believe.
So, I believe this is where my codependency began. Looking back into your own life and taking an inventory you may discover where and when yours began.

My turning point began. I knew I needed to make changes in my life, personal, and spiritual. I was in a marriage that became more and more manipulative and obsessive
due to his infidelity.  I did seek out a counselor to help me over come these codependent tendencies. She gave me the tools I needed to change my thinking and impression
of myself. A few years had passed, and I had been alone and single for 7 I tried to be happy.  It was time that I worked on myself. I focused on myself for a change. I became
involved in a spiritual group where I became strong in myself with the help of the Divine. I discovered my gifts and found myself.
I won’t say that sometimes I may have an off day. The moment I realize I may be having a self-defeating moment I turn it immediately around to being grateful. This is a prime example of how
can help you to release challenges that could hold you back from your goals and dreams.
When was the last time you focused on something you would like to do?
Something that gives you joy and pleasure. As codependent people we get
caught up in even to the point of being enmeshed in another’s life. You
deserve time for yourself. Let’s talk about turning your focusing on yourself.
When you start those tendencies of preoccupation with someone else, its
then you should focus on yourself. How you ask?
 
First is to spend quality time with yourself. Yes, I said quality, not time as in
an hour or half an hour. Set down and maybe journal. This time is to raise
your awareness your consciousness, to heal and bring together integrate all
past experiences.
 
Take a few minutes after the morning alarm and think about your day and
your needs. Who do I need to set boundaries with? Take a walk during lunch
Remember you cannot fix anyone. When you are beginning to have those
its then we turn the focus on yourself. Journal for a few minutes each day.
Add affirmations and quotes to keep the focus on yourself. Writing about
your feelings.

Learn to say No, make a list of activities you can enjoy. Remember you can’t
fix another person’s problems. Learning to let go isn’t easy. Turning the
focus towards yourself is not being selfish. It’s a sign of respect towards
yourself. Set boundaries. 
Together we can be Dependent and learning to love ourselves.
 
Remember you not alone. Many people stay in self-defeating relationships
for lots of reasons. I did the same. After my divorce I spent time with
myself. Yes, it wasn’t easy, and it takes time to let go of the old you and
reacquaint yourself with you. The you want to be when was the last time you
said something loving and positive to yourself? What about a walk in the
park. Take a drive, discover new scenery or even an overnight stay
someplace new and exciting.
 
·         Take a book with you to enjoy, allow your emotions to flow and journal
    about those feelings.
 
·         First is to spend quality time with yourself. Yes, I said quality, not time as in an hour or half an hour. 
·         Set down and maybe journal. This time is to raise your awareness your consciousness, to heal and bring together integrate all past experiences.
 
 
·         Take a few minutes after the morning alarm and think about your day and your needs. Who do I need to set boundaries with? Take a walk during lunch Remember you cannot fix anyone.
 
·         When you are beginning to have those its then we turn the focus on yourself. Journal for a few minutes each day. Add affirmations and quotes to keep the focus on yourself. Writing about your feelings.
 
·         Learn to say No, make a list of activities you can enjoy. Remember you can’t fix another person’s problems. Learning to let go isn’t easy.
 
·         Turning the focus towards yourself is not being selfish. It’s a sign of respect towards yourself. Set boundaries.
 
  If you would like to begin on yourself, if you’re ready, then you can reach me through my email or web site listed below.
 
Create Goals, Create Change
Gena Kidd Integrative Wellness Practitioner
www.crystalwater.life
[email protected]
 
It’s time to love yourself. It’s time to be first and only you can do that.
Allow me to show you how.